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Schweiz (Deutsch)#1 Thing never to say to a TAB fan
#1 Thing never to say to a TAB fan
Posted: Saturday, March 6, 2010 - 01:50
My girlfriend acted bored at both shows I took her to. She listens to commercial music. Today, she said that all of TABs' music sounds the same. I need a new girlfriend. If you're going to get 25 at my expense, make it creative, lol. I just typed that with a straight face. Oh well, I guess I'll go grab my Hummingbird and play a few off "Killing the Headlamps".
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Sounds like my first marriage. Don't make the same mistakes I made, kid. It ain't worth it in the end. Dump her and spend the money you would have spent on an anniversary/birthday gift on tickets to Bonnaroo or Merlefest. You'll be much better off and you'll have no regrets. The Avett Nation loves you and welcomes you in.
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I already have my Bonnaroo ticket. It will only be my 8th time or so that I've seen them, but I've seen some good shows. It's quality, and not quantity, that is important in life. For example, there are a million Nickelbacks, but only one TAB.
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Amen, TheMourning, Amen
This is awesome.
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See, I played this one.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayXLQiCGkS8
My daddy used to say that it's musical style, and not repetition, that makes some musicians' music instantly recognizable.
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"The stars felt weak, but they laughed with me...at a world where the lights go out."
Nice cover and good decision.
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Rejoice always, Mark
hahah, life is too short to date people with terrible music taste.
you don't have to love the same bands i do, but tolerate and at least understand why i'm fanatical. (and not be upset over the fact that catching tours may trump other things.)
"hahah, life is too short to date people with terrible music taste."
Allison, that is part of my own personal scripture as well.....rigth olychild?
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"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3
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Rejoice always, Mark
Yeah, I'm looking for someone who will get it. I'd really like it if they didn't mind taking road trips up and down the east coast to see the Avetts, but I think I could settle for simple understanding of what this is about.
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~Megan
"Free is not your right to choose, it's answering what's asked of you, to give the love you find until it's gone."
Hey Megan,
The next best thing to having a guy that will travel with you, is a guy that will hold down the fort a few times a year while you go travel with some great ladies...btw, still working out a plan for Merlefest!
Having said that, my guy "gets" the Avett's music, has seen them live several times and yes, I would be worried if my husband was bored at a TAB show!
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Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye, but do not perceive the wood beam in your own eye? Matthew 7-3
That's true, Ann...I would definitely take that. And thanks for mentioning Merlefest...I thought you forgot about me!
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~Megan
"Free is not your right to choose, it's answering what's asked of you, to give the love you find until it's gone."
I don't suppose anyone can really give you advice without knowing the two of you, but I just can't get my head around that kind of disparity of tastes ever working out for a couple in the long haul.
My wife and I have plenty of disparate tastes on all sorts of things, but TAB is a non-negotiable. We're both huge fans.
I just don't know how to reconcile not at least getting why TAB would be appealing with any of the things I would want in a spouse, or even in a friend: appreciation for creativity, recognition of excellence, depth of feeling, thoughfulness about life and its meaning, authenticity.
It's not my place to tell you to "run don't walk," but if it were my place to say that, that's what I'd say.
-- Eric
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"Free is not your right to choose, it's answering what's asked of you, to give the love you find until it's gone."
I could accept simply not being interested in the Avett Brothers, but claiming that their boring and that all of their music sounds the same... Gah!
There's hope out there, though. I found a girl who's actually a bit of a metal head and into other music along those lines. She's introduced me to some of her kind of music (some of it I've loved, some of it... meh) and I've introduced her to some of my kind of music (indie and folk, and the same went for her.) Thankfully, the Avett Brothers went over very well with her. A Carolina Jubilee is (surprisingly) her favorite Avett album.
And thankfully, we both share the same appreciation for a lot of the same classic rock. And she loves the Beatles (I think being with an anti-Beatles girl would be even more terrible than an anti-Avett girl... X_X )
Yeah, I'd prefer someone as crazy as me, but those expectations are probably pretty high. I want someone who appreciates the same things that I get out of their music...I mean, that's a pretty big freakin' deal, because it is more than just a catchy tune to me. But if he'd rather see them 10 shows a year instead of the 20 I want to see, I can deal with that. I'm still going to see my 20, 10 with him, and 10 others with other cool people in the Avett Nation while he holds down the fort.
It's important, but I feel like it might be crazy for absolute devotion to the Avetts to be a make or break deal.
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~Megan
"Free is not your right to choose, it's answering what's asked of you, to give the love you find until it's gone."
You definitely made the right decision. I bet you can find yourself a nice girl at your next Avett show.
I also had to share the worst thing someone ever said to me about TAB: that "they are a frat boy band!" I was shocked. Really? A frat boy band? I mean, I'm in the double-digits of shows seen and while there are inevitably drunk, obnoxious frat boys at every show, they always seem to be pretty limited in number and thank god that they sort of travel in packs and are too scared to attempt to talk to us normal folk. But TAB? A frat boy band? I think not. Hootie and the Blowfish? Yes, a frat boy band. Dave Matthews? Unfortunately taken over by frat boys. But TAB? No way. Not in this lifetime.
My old lady did not understand why we were driving hours and hours to go see the Avett's a few years back
When the show finally started she looked at me smiling and said "Ok now I understand"
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This is probably one of my favorite threads on any board. Just recently started dating a girl, we met and fell for each other BECAUSE of loving music, we go back and forth all the time. I gave her a couple Avett songs, gonna work her into it. Just sharing the lyrics with her warms her heart
Remember the part of Charlie Brown Christmas were Lucy says something to the effect of "Beethoven wasn't so great" and Schroeder goes, "Waddayamean Beethoven wasn't so great!?!"? I know Lucy was obnoxious and all, but I'm sure part of the reason that she never got any Schroeder sugar lovin' was that she didn't respect his music. Especially when it's such a big part of his life. When someone criticizes TAB around me without really knowing anything about them, it's a huge turn off. Besides, it's great fun going to shows as a single person because you can flail around and be happy without worrying that your Significant Other is going to think you are a dork for dancing like a dork. Or without getting jealous that you are swooning over Bob. Sounds like you made a good choice. I'm just starting to maybe maybe maaybe see somebody (I don't want to get too exited about, you never know how these things will go) and I keep wondering at what point of knowing Said Person I would introduce them to TAB. I mean, if things go well and all that, they are going to eventually notice an certain pattern of obsession. Better to introduce them early? Better to wait? hmmmm......
^^what greybird said. good luck with Said Person, gb. Let the introduction point come naturally. Just give them time to process and hopefully they will ask for more.
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Well, this thing kind-of took on a life of its own. Awesome responses, everyone. I feel so justified in my insanity now. Thank you.
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"Well, the stars felt weak, but they laughed with me, at a world where the lights go out."
How will you break the news to Bob, A? ;-D
You've certainly received some good advice. Not much to add But, boring? she really said "boring". I think there's something wrong with her.
Annie, just start playing them in the car and don't say anything at first. after awhile, it'll be like osmosis--he'll just realize he loves them. maybe don't mention the full extent quite yet.
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Wish me luck, I know you think I'll need it.
For all the hardest roads we have to walk alone.
It's not insanity. Not at all. I don't think I could date someone that didn't have good music taste...and if they didn't like The Avetts, well, I'm still single - so I guess that one's self-explanatory
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"Hell has no fury like a woman; happy, scorned, or otherwise"
G- we met over coffee. He understands. ducksoup, (isn't that a marx brothers film?) thanks for the good luck wishes. and jen, I think I will do just that. Lock the car doors, accelerate, and let the awesomeness take effect.
Annie, you are awesome! great post and good luck!
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i have tried dating those that were not at all interested/into the same music that I was and I can honestly say that it will never happen again. I'm not saying that we have to be lock-step on every band on the planet but when your dating a girl and she gets pissed because you like waking up to so chill avett sounds then she honestly needs to hit the road.
do we need to re-introduce the avett dating site possibility? **wink**
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hahaha anjanette, I was thinking that as I read through this thread!!!!! I myself am married and have introduced my wife to them... she likes them alot. She just recently said "you know, I like brad paisley, he is a good guitar player in all but holy crap he needs to change it up like the avett brothers do. I really see why you only listen to them now"
Oh, the google map of where all the avett fans are would help the singles meet... we need that to be taken over by the site.
Annie- yeah for you! glad to hear that and I'd offer advice as far as introducing people to the music, but I fail miserably each time. So, don't listen to anything that I say!
My boyfriend and I discovered the Avett Brothers together, thank goodness, so there has never been a problem. I used to be a HUGE Dave Matthews fan, and used to spend thousands every year on tour. He can not stand DMB and it was always a struggle when I wanted to spend money on their concerts. Now there is peace, we don't go see DMB anymore, and catch the Avetts as much as possible. I did get lucky last summer when they toured with DMB, and will get lucky at Hullabalou because I get to see them both, but I have come to my senses and do not buy DMB tickets anymore. So I can understand the struggle of not having the same musical tastes and how much turmoil it can cause in a relationship.
If I were on the market, I wouldn't date someone who doesn't like dogs. I don't feel like it's a character flaw or anything, but I inherently don't trust people who don't like dogs (and I don't mean people who are scared of dogs or people who don't want to own a dog of their own, I mean people who think dogs are dumb and don't like them).
I feel like not liking the Avett brothers has become tantamount to someone not liking dogs in my mind. I'm not going to say you're a bad person, but I don't think you and I would enjoy each other's company very much, so let's just forget about it.
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Anjie...BAHAHA. I knew you'd throw in your schemes at some point
Heids - I agree about the dog thing...but I think I generalize it to animals in general. Having a phobia is one thing, being a jerk to animals is another.
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"Hell has no fury like a woman; happy, scorned, or otherwise"
I heard TAB before my boyfriend(ish) and did not think he was going to like them. Everytime I play him a new song I like, he always hates it. I told him "I don't think you'll like this song, but I'm gonna play it anyway" and played him Shame. He loved it and we've been listening non-stop since. He listens to other things while he's driving; I, on the other hand, ONLY listen to TAB. If we can't agree on music to listen to- Avett Brothers always win.
I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't like The Avetts, considering I play them all the time.
I've learned that "It's out there"...is not a good ting to say....hahahaha.
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To be fair, she acted bored. She never said they were boring. She's a really good girl. I would just like to be able to use Avett lyrics to express how I feel sometimes, and have her understand where I'm coming from. Don't get me wrong. I'm an intelligent man. I can express myself in my own words and be understood. It just seems that the songs say it so much better sometimes, and I find myself thinking of their lyrics almost like Bible verses to quote to other people.
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"Well, the stars felt weak, but they laughed with me, at a world where the lights go out."
I recognize that I erred after posting last night. Acting bored and saying they're boring are in fact 2 different things. I'm sure she's not all bad. I still don't know how someone could act bored at an Avett's show though. There's just too much energy......
It would be hard for me to date someone who didn't enjoy the avett brothers. Since they are such a huge part of my life. I like to think i've actually turned a few guys onto them while dating. So the relationships didn't last but at least now they have a great band to listen to and perhaps some songs for grieving haha.
there would be a interesting strain on my relationship, if my fiance didn't also like The Avetts... if she got mad every time I headed off to a show, she'd be mad at me for a good portion of the year...now granted, she's not nearly the weirdo I am about this music / band, but she enjoys going and doesn't get too mad when all i play is Avett Bros music...
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Well Locust, Mount Pleasant, Concord.... LETS GOOO!